Posts Tagged ‘John McCain’

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A LETTER TO COUSIN NICK

May 18, 2011

Dear Nick,

I waited a few months to write this because I wanted to allow time for some healing. I think about you often and the impression you left on so many lives. I think about your wife, Karen, and your two children, Kallie and Jimmy, about your mom, Theo, and your sister, Denise. But this letter is not to them, it’s to you.

I’ll start by recalling a quick phone conversation we had once in 2008, realizing that this was so typical of our usual call-to-action: lunch.

“Hi Mike, cousin Nick.”

“Hey Nick, what’s up?”

“Wondered if you were going to be around today?”

“Not really, man. I’m at the rally downtown.”

“John McCain’s?”

“Not hardly.”

“Oh, okay. I’ll call you sometime next week.”

“Lunch?”

“Sounds good.”

I don’t know if you were kidding when you said “John McCain’s?” but I smiled anyway. You’re sense of humor saw no bounds, manifesting itself in virtually every conversation or situation.

Although we were just cousins, we were also very good friends and in the last several years, you felt like a brother to me. As children, our parents saw to it that we cousins were around each other often. As adults, we didn’t see nearly as much of one another for the obvious reasons: we began families of our own with some of us moving to a different city or state. But after your brief stay in California and my travels as an entertainer, we finally settled down back in our home town and slowly started reconnecting.

You and I were raised in very different environments. Your upbringing was far stricter than mine, which was fairly relaxed. Your dad was always telling my mom how she was being too easy on me. What was she thinking, letting me play in a band? I don’t think he ever understood.

Over the last 15 years or so, we spent many-a-lunch discussing our parents, our siblings and most of all, our own families. We also discussed politics (yours more conservative than mine), religion (different paths, same destination), and our extended families. We ended each lunch with a handshake and a smile, vowing to “do it again soon.” And we did.

At some of those lunches, we talked about your son Jimmy and my son Kenny. They were in their teenage years. You and I were experiencing the typical teenage “issues” with them. When I finally realized that for me, these issues were mostly mine and not Kenny’s, you were surprised by my confession. A few weeks before you passed, you told me that you had let go of your deep-rooted ideas about fatherhood – wanting only that your children be true to themselves first and foremost – and not to be concerned with what they think you (or anybody else) might want them to be. In your words, you “broke the cycle.”

It seemed that your passion for music, which was put on hold for so many years, was somewhat resurrected later in your life. And although our tastes were not very similar, we enjoyed each others’ talents. In the 80s, you managed to break away a couple of times to record some drum tracks in the studio, saving me from having to program my antiquated drum machine. I know you remember the instrumental in 1984, but even I forgot about the time you joined my sister (singing), her husband (on guitar) and me on a tune in 1986. You were far more talented than you realized, but when I said that, you made some self-deprecating joke about it. I wasn’t “blowin’ smoke” cous – you played well.

But the shocker for me (and everyone else in the room) was the night you got up and sang “It’s Now or Never,” the old Elvis tune, at my mother’s 70th birthday, with your mother standing right next to you. After all these years, I had no idea you could sing – really sing!

I know why you didn’t take me up on my offer to join Reflection, back in 1979. You didn’t want to disappoint your parents  – a scenario that is all-too-common with people of our generation. Personally, I believe the  musical desire of your heart was never fully realized. There were a few occasions where it did shine through. Two that come to mind immediately were when you took time away from your day gig (which I know you did not enjoy but maintained to please your father) to put together an Elvis show for fundraisers at your church. You brought down the house, brotha!

You were always so selfless, putting everyone else’s needs way ahead of your own. I often wonder how different your life might have been had you chosen to be just a little selfish with your time. I can’t help but feel you might still be entertaining us mere mortals. 

My hope and prayer is that those closest to you have learned at least one thing from your brief 56 years on this earth: that it’s just as important to feed your soul as it is to feed your family and help others around you. I know many understand this but I also know there are some that don’t.

Case in point: at your viewing, standing not more than fifty feet from your coffin, I overheard one of our relatives lecturing another relative. “You need to make sure your finances are taken care of before you get involved with frivolous activities that are non-productive,” he said. “There will be plenty of time for that stuff after the kids are grown and your stock portfolio is ‘healthy’.” Sadly, it may be a while before he “gets it,” Nick.

In closing, I want you to know that because of you I’m a better person and I really miss our call-to-action lunches. 🙂 Most importantly, I will never forget what your presence in my life did for me.

Sincerely,

www.MichaelKontras.com

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MAN-CRUSH?

June 26, 2009

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One of them is married to a very wealthy woman – the other has never been married.

Every time one speaks on an issue,

the other follows on the same issue, using nearly identical words.

Both can be seen together in hundreds of pictures – everywhere!

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So, what’s the deal?

I know many are throwing around the idea that Lindsey Graham is gay. If that’s the case, why is he so enamored with John McCain? It’s doubtful that McCain is gay.

And while we’re on the subject of being enamored with McCain, what is Joe Lieberman’s story? Why does it seem that Joe and Lindsey – who don’t appear to be close friends – both have a man-crush on McCain, while Cindy seems very aloof around John? What do they know about McCain that neither Cindy nor any of us know about him?

Being the imaginative person that I am, I could speculate on a variety of scenarios, some of which could create lingering mental images that I don’t want to be held responsible for.

Apparently, Vanity Fair doesn’t share my concern.

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I hope I’ve maintained my dignity.

Sincerely,

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www.MichaelKontras.com

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IF YOU CAN’T DAZZLE ‘EM WITH BRILLIANCE…

April 26, 2009

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You may remember the saying, “If you can’t dazzle ’em with brilliance, baffle ’em with bullshit.” I remember trying the BS portion of this “strategy” in high school on essay exams when I thought the teacher wasn’t thoroughly reading each paper. I’m nearly certain it never worked.

Unfortunately, the BS portion has been successful for Republicans – until the 2008 Presidential Election. However, since the inauguration of President Obama, it has been a monumental failure.

I’m not sure if people are finally starting to see through their tactics, or if there are simply more of us now demanding the nuance that has been painfully absent in politics and policies over the last decade. Either way, the Republicans are desperate to redefine themselves in what they are calling “Re-branding.”

Many corporations have used re-branding to revitalize their image. They create a new marketing plan which is usually followed by new products, fresh ideas and new business concepts.

The Republican Party thinks it can do the same thing with one big difference: They intend to use the same ideas that have failed to address the real needs of this country for nearly 30 years.

And the name for their “new” idea? The National Council for a New America, headed by none other than John McCain. And his is not the only “fresh face” in this new council. There’s also Mitt Romney, Dick Army, Haley Barbour, and many more. They have also recruited not-ready-for-prime-time Gov. Bobby Jindal (R-LA) and Rep. John Boehner’s (R-OH) echo chamber, Rep. Eric Cantor (R-VA).

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This is stupidity on steroids.

The NCNA will be answering to congressional members such as John Boehner and Mitch McConnell – two leaders that helped the Republican Party to lose BIG in the 2006 and 2008 elections.

One additional “new” face is… Newt Gingrich. (Eye roll, please.)

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His website, www.AmericanSolutions.com shows a 12-step plan for revitalizing our economy. It’s basically two words: Tax Cuts. The rest is fluff. No nuance. No substance. It’s similar to what he espoused 15 years ago, when he was Speaker of the House and concocted “The Contract with America.”

Much like Barney Fife, the Republicans are about to shoot themselves in the foot.

An old man who used to come into the little pub I owned years ago once told me, “You can’t make chicken salad out of chicken shit, no matter how much mayonnaise you put in it.”

Words to live by.

Sincerely,

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www.MichaelKontras.com